The Details That Keep It Personal

Writing by Cory and Ellen Mattheis


“For Cory and I, it seems easy to balance the give and the take in our relationship. We equalize each other in specific situations when it’s needed, and we’ve done this for as long as I can remember. He’s amazing when it comes to picking me up when my confidence is low. He can read me like a book when it comes to that! He somehow has the mastery to take something that makes no sense to me, and turn it into something that is so obvious I don’t know how I could have missed it. He’s a great teacher, both in an academic and a supportive sense, and I greatly admire that. I am big into support and respect. I know I need it, so I try to remember to be as supportive as he is with me, and to respect the things that are important to him, keeping a balance to the relationship.”

“Another thing that I think is important in a healthy relationship is having a similar sense of humor. I can’t tell you how many difficult situations we’ve gotten out of by making each other laugh, and how often we act like complete goofballs. I sometimes can’t believe I found someone who is as weird and goofy as I am. I can’t imagine our relationship without it!”

“Our home reflects who we are. We keep it tidy, and try to keep a minimally inspired look so it doesn’t feel too cluttered or unorganized. I love the spaces that we’ve created together over the years. Sometimes there’s compromise on a piece of art, or a location of furniture etc. but we always balance each other. I keep him from straying too minimal/sterile, and he keeps me from cluttering the space. :)”

“I’d also say that our space informs us… meaning that our choice to live in a compact and efficient space somehow dictates and directs the things we own. We’d prefer to curate the objects around us to the items that give us joy and have some relevance to our lives at this time. Our taste reflects our influences at the moment- significant time spent in Scandinavia and Latin America is leaving it’s traces all over our home. I’m sure these things will continue to change as our relationship evolves- it’s sort of a live record of this moment in our lives. We’re very interested in documenting these moments and being able to reflect on our evolution over time.”

“I see how successful and confident Cory is in his career and academics, and I admire him for that. I am his biggest fan. He inspires me to get excited about design, whether it’s a work project that I need a boost with, or a home project that we immerse ourselves in, he’s above and beyond passionate about any scale of a project that comes his way, which in turn makes me excited.”

“Ellen’s energy and positivity is always something I’ve looked up to. She’s able to see the best in every situation and nearly everybody- my outlook often changes just from being around her. I can tend to get wrapped up in the details and Ellen always provides much needed perspective at the perfect time. Her eyes are also nice :)”

“It started in sophomore year at Washington State University when we were in architecture school. I was immediately attracted to him. He was different than most guys I’d seen around, particularly we seemed to have the same taste in music which was big for me back then, and that’s still a huge theme in our relationship, to this day. From here, I would say a minor obsession began. I was super shy when it came to any guy that I liked. I come off super outgoing and confident, but the second I have feelings for someone, I am a bumbling mess. It wasn’t until later that I started to feel more confident in interactions with him. I always thought Cory would never have looked at me beyond the “friend zone”. Little did I know, he had a burgeoning crush as well. Eventually, everything aligned and we ended up together in our senior year.”

“Yes, it was all about the music. No- not really, but it really helps when you connect on many levels. For us, it’s always been a deep connection on the things that are important in our lives. This began with things like music and architecture, but I think we’ve continued to evolve and now the things that draw us together are more personal.”

“We are both passionate about design- obviously, and travel. We have traveled together a lot since we first started dating- sometimes for a short trip and sometimes for extended stays. We just bought a house a little over a year ago, so we’re really into working on the house thinking of future projects, tinkering in the yard/garage, etc. Exploring our neighborhood, walking our new pup all over! Speaking of passionate, we are super in love with our new dog, she brings a whole new element to our relationship. It’s practice for the future! ;-)”

“We’re incredibly passionate and invested in our family and friendships. We love our companions in life and the support that comes from them. We love any excuse to get together and entertain friends and family and appreciate a really good party. When we host we like to focus on the details that make it personal- music that fits the moment perfectly, food and drink that might be inspired from our latest travels and the right mix of new and old friends. The mix of friends is actually really important- in the end the people make the party.”




Leave a Reply

  • (will not be published)

Morning Rituals and Peace of Mind

Writing by Jennifer Gauthier

Check out her work and website here.

“It is easy for one to not fully know who they are. I feel most like myself when I get curious and check in with my emotional body. As an empathetic person, it is easy to blur the lines between what others are experiencing and what I am feeling. I connect most with my own soul by really taking advantage of the delicious morning hours before others rise. I am able to have my morning routine and also set my intentions for the day by making time for a quiet practice that is mine alone. Only after I have honored myself in this way do I begin to connect with my purpose.”

“I wake up in my home studio and watch the sun dance above the surface of my paintings, observing how the light integrates itself into my work. I nourish my body by cooking in this space and also allowing myself to become centered through meditation. I close my eyes each night in my studio, reluctantly, because so many projects hadn’t been realized. My personal space is in a constant flux; it changes and grows as I continue to change and grow as an artist. This room remains open and full of gratitude. At the center of my home, I have made my commitment to living life artfully. I am forever grateful for these walls that have permitted me time and space for exploration.”

“I often wonder what the best way to describe the core of an artist is. Could it be an observer of nature? A thief of color? An obsessed collector of terrain? A witness and a mourner of each fleeting moment? I continue to explore these types of questions. I know that I am a spiritual being that requires solitude to recharge. At the very same time, I cherish the beauty in conversation and the new ideas that emerge through the voice of others. I am infatuated with mimicking the natural world around me in the unique manner that I view it.”

“The older I get, the more I realize just how important it is to have a morning routine. My entire day is dependent on how I utilize time in the morning. Life is busy and new ideas on routine come and go, but a few rituals remains constant. I drink black coffee as I stretch in a few yogic poses, I write in my gratitude journal, pull a tarot card, and spend time in mediation or prayer before leaving the apartment. It is as simple as that. As I am presented with challenges throughout the day, I am equipped to remain grounded as long as I have respected my morning routine.”

“Fear is crippling. It is the dark thoughts that stunt growth as an individual. It keeps people in their own safe place and from learning to love the unknown, whatever that may be. My favorite mantra that I repeat to myself throughout the day is, “Please heal my fear based thoughts”. It immediately reminds me that I am worthy and so are others. It stops my ego from being critical of others or myself and shines the light on the root of the issue. It is important to step into that unknown place, because that is where the growth, love and expansion can happen.”

“My home, the Pacific Northwest, is something that runs through all of my work. My observations, color references, and repeated shapes, are all sourced from the nature here. I’d love to see how my work is influenced through travel or relocation.”

“I believe that people are magnificent beyond their own comprehension. As long as they are doing the thing that lifts them up, they are making the Earth a better place that is more full of joy. I’ve found the thing that lights my fire, so I chase it in hopes that it will inspire others to do the same. There is a healing energy within the process. I think that this is my path on being of service to others.”

“In all honesty, working with paint is my form of healing. Getting dirty, pushing around pigment is humbling for me. Gardeners move soil, farmers move cattle, and teachers move their students by leaving lasting impressions on the mind. There is a transfer of ideas and energy in this way. I believe that every person impacts the Earth, whether they are adding to or depleting something from it. My only plan with my artwork is that it continues to feed my soul, and in turn, creates more beauty in the world.”
“Carving your own path in the world of arts or any career can be daunting and often feel lonely. I have found several like-minded individuals that are easy to talk to and bounce ideas off of. Finding people who can fully support your creative journey while receiving support from you is a powerful connection and essential to growth. These people become your confidants and your inspiration.”

Leave a Reply

  • (will not be published)